#but then i thought about it and whenever my bro texts my typical reaction is like Man what now im not even opening it 💀

[faunandfloraas]

Was going to say Seungmins evil for not replying to his older sisters cute text messages but. I always ignore my older brothers messages, too.

[vikings-til-valhalla]

I find it hilarious that, when I finally decided on becoming Asatru, I didn't know entirely what my gender was. I'd been questioning, I was between labels. And I took comfort with the Gods supporting me.

Well... some of Them.

Every time I prayed to the Æsir, I would get responses and answers (as vague as they were sometimes). If I prayed to the Vanir, I got... nothing. Literally nothing. That, or whatever I prayed for, I'd get the exact opposite.

Did the Vanir just hate me???

Eventually, as I read more texts on the practices (or what evidence of them remained) from a thousand years ago, I learned more about myself as I learned the history and tales of the Gods as well. I came out as male. And just around that same time, I learned, traditionally, Æsir worship was typically for men, and Vanir worship was typically for women. Obviously, you're not restricted by gender, or lack thereof, to who you can worship.

But the Gods were telling me, essentially, I'm a guy. Through and through. And there's no questioning it.

To this day, 9 years later, I still have never gotten a response or positive reaction when praying to the Vanir, ONLY the Æsir. Doesn't matter how many times I try, what I say or do, what I offer, it never ends well with Vanir worship for me. Just... Æsir.

But it's really a reassurance to me whenever I feel dysphoric. If thoughts or doubts ever cross my mind about if I'm a man, I just remember: even the Gods always tell me I'm a guy. The dudest of dudes. The most bro of bros.

So yeah. I got that going for me at least.

[cozy-corner-system]

To the Anon who sent us the ask regarding “how to differentiate between your own behavior and a(n) (possible!) alter”; let me first say that we truly do get where you’re coming from! When I was first coming to terms with being a System, so many things started to make sense - puzzle pieces falling into place with so much more just....clicking. And one of those things was behaviors, whether it was thought patterns, reactions, or the tone in which “I” would type.

Some of us are far more formal when we type, as well as talk, while some of us are...a bit more laidback about grammatical and spelling rules dfjndsjn

I think for us - me, as the Host, specifically - what helped for us to differentiate whether it was just a change in attitude or a change in who was fronting is just...thinking, and listening to emotional responses. One of the biggest flags of me being a System was when sometime during Junior year of high school, I started to REALLY get into saying “lmao”, typing in all lowercase, quoting memes left and right, and being more “laidback”. It was only after I realized I’m a System that I looked back on typing patterns and messaging behaviors and went “oh no, no no, that was DEFINITELY not me”

This might sound cheesy, but the best way to try and start figuring it out is listening to your brain’s reactions to this stuff. If seeing those messages makes you feel disconnected from them (emotionally or otherwise), or estranged, then I would really try to find a good, mental time and a place to explore this trail of thought! Although people can change a lot over the course of 1-2 years, people can also remain pretty static! I’m not ashamed to say that I went through my “lol XD so random” phase as a kid online, but that’s because I know it was me writing those messages and being in control. With my “all lowercase, lmao at the end of every sentence, chill meme bro” “““““phase”““““ in high school, which was very short and very fleeting? I can never, ever see me, at any point in time, saying that for any reason. My alter Lucas on the other hand is the one who has that exact typing “quirk”, and whenever it’s brought up or remembered, he has the most emotional connection to it - because that was him back then, texting my friends and answering messages when fronting.

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I would say, in as brief of a tl;dr as I can give:

There a few ways to tell what is an individual, personal change in behavior, and what is an alter fronting. The biggest one for us is finding that sense of connection to it, or even lack thereof. Do you feel like you typed it? Do you feel an emotional connection to those messages? Do you feel like it does or doesn’t align with your own growth and change as an individual, especially in regards to your behavior? Does it match a consistent, ongoing pattern, or is it sporadic bursts? Did this way of typing last for weeks, months, even a year or more? Or did it only last for a couple of days before reverting back to your more familiar way of typing? Has this typing quirk ever popped again? There are a lot more things to question, but definitely only try to follow the ones that leave you with the least amount of anxiety and stress (at least, in the beginning)!

If you don’t feel as though you typed it in any way, shape, or form, then definitely try to think more deeply into it. Emotional Amnesia is a big thing for OSDD Systems, though not so sure about DID Systems. For us, whenever one of us sends messages to another person before switching out with another, we tend to always look back at each other’s messages and just feel Almost weird about it, mostly in that we do feel very disconnected from it; mentally and emotionally. That is what really helps for us to determine what is just a change in mood and individual behavior, and when someone else is piloting this meat coil

Now, the Anon did say they wanted a few other opinions on this; so unless we misunderstood something, I would say that this is a post welcoming to discussion and education in regards to this topic. In fact, we’d love to hear the perspectives of other DID/OSDD Systems relating to this topic! (Just try to keep it civil ;P)

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Also, in case you’re still struggling with things, or this seems really scary and life-changing and overwhelming, that’s totally okay. People who are Systems aren’t typically meant to know that we are. It’s a covert disorder - something hidden, even from the person who has it! For those of us who do learn about this, it can be really terrifying at first. Petrifying, even! And it’s okay to feel that way. Hell, a lot of System Hosts probably had freakouts like that when finding out about, well, their System. It’s a lot to take in, and a lot to figure out and explore.

So just, take your time with it. Don’t stress yourself out too much over it. You go at your own pace of figuring out what’s going on, who is who, and how you can handle it. It’s your mental health journey, and you’re ultimately the captain of this ship.

[diabolik-lover-smut-blog]

More than Friends

We all know Laito's preference is the uke girl type then the seme girl. So when you hear tomboy who is more masculine then the girls that Laito has his small flings with it's odd. Laito enjoyed the tomboy's company always coming up with witty comments and savage comebacks to shut down his flirts, which only edged him on further to have this tomboy all to himself. This tomboy was (Name); she was a rebel against the school she stood out easily in the crowd in her boyish appearance but her features were that of a goddess who had a lot of guy's hearts, girls in the school were intimidated by her and some burned with jealously. A typical day for (Name) as she walked the school grounds skipping class as it bored her oh so much, therefore she looked for the perverted playboy vampire who for once was in class which slightly annoyed as her boredom grew "So class as you can see in order to achieve this formula you must used Pythagoras" the teacher said teaching the class. (Name) looked through the window spotting the perverted playboy vampire sitting at his seat boredom written all over his face as he played with his pencil. She knocked on the window softly drawing the attention of the class but she ducked quickly not to be caught by the teacher. Peeping back up, the teacher was facing the class and the vampire looked over smiling happily. She waved him over mouthing 'I need some help' and the teacher turned around and she ducked down yet again so she wouldn’t get caught "Sir, may I go to the toilet. You see I drank sooo much and I need to go" Laito said with a smirk and the teacher sighed and lets him go. He walked out seeing (Name) on the ground lying there arm over her eyes being over dramatic which he found amusing "Tranny-chan? Are you alright?" he asked a little worried but held a playful tone as usual "You take forever" she whined childishly as she moved her arm away from her face and glared at him playfully "hmmm~ I didn't know you missed me so much, maybe I can make it up to you~" he purred holding his hand out for her "Oh Laito-kun, just you being here is enough" she said sarcastically imitating Laito's fan girls "What did you need help with?" he asked with a chuckle at her imitation of his lovely fan girls "Nothing, I was just bored and didn’t want to walk around like a loner" she explained with a chuckle as he hummed in response in somewhat understanding "Oi Laito you doing anything in the school break?" she asked looking at him as they walked out of the school grounds "Nope, as usual" he sighed a little knowing how boring his holidays will be "Wanna hang out sometime, I feel like we need to chill ya know?" she smiled at him "Ahh~ what’s this, is my little Tranny-chan falling for me?" he smirked leaning into her "HA! In your dreams pretty boy, knowing you, you probably do that anyway" she said leaning away from him laughing a little as he clicked his tongue "Did you just call me pretty my I didn't know you thought of me as attractive" he said with the back on his hand on his forehead and his other hand over his heart. By now they were out of the school grounds and in town they were making their way to an ice-cream shop "Yeah so? I ain't blind" she laughed as they grabbed an ice-cream together. Yes even though the two aren't a couple they act very much like it but this love was mostly one sided, Laito was in love with her; while she was the care free go with the flow kind of person. She wasn't into all that relationship things considering her past relationships where they wanted to be serious with her but she loved the life of the party, going out places to hang out more of the friend vibe than the boyfriend girlfriend vibe. Laito was much the same but he really wants to be with (Name) because she was not likes any other girl he's been with, but he wouldn't mind getting serious with her and settle down with her. But who knows what (Name) might choose, when the time comes.

~school breaks~

Laito: Hey Tranny-chan when are you planning for us to hang out?

(Name): Whenever you're free dude, I'm honestly free whenever. Plus don't you need permission from your "dad" Reiji?

Laito: okay technically yes I have to ask him and he's not my dad

(Name): dude chill, it’s just a prank bro. Anyway, dude ask him if we can hang out in town

(Name) waited for his reply as she cleaned her room. She was the kind f person when she's bored she will clean and listen to music and dance around like an idiot which took longer to clean up but that never stopped her "Na na na na na na, na na na na na na Na na na na na na, na na na na na na

I guess I just lost my husband I don't know where he went So I'm gonna drink my money I'm not gonna pay his rent (nope) I got a brand new attitude And I'm gonna wear it tonight I wanna get in trouble I wanna start a fight

Na na na na na na na, I wanna start a fight Na na na na na na na, I wanna start a fight" she sang pretending to play the guitar.

Her phone went off and she answered it "Yello?" she said turning the music down a little "Hello? Is this (Name)?" asked a deep voice "Yes it is I, (Name)" she replied "Good evening, my name is Reiji Sakamaki. Laito's older brother, he had just been explaining to me that you had made plans with him to go into town am I correct?" spoke Reiji "Yes, that is right. Is there a problem with that?" she questioned "Not at all (Name), but he must be home for dinner at 10:00, am I clear?" Reiji demanded "With all due respect Reiji Sakamaki, but both Laito and I are young adults 10:00 is a curfew for children. If I may, I shall have Laito back at 2:00 am, I will be sure that he will be in safe hands" she smirked as she spoke through the phone with Laito’s older brother "...Alright but if you are a minute late I will punish the two of you for disobeying. Do I make myself clear?" Reiji said sternly "Alright understood. Does Laito have any commitment for this week? I had asked him that I am available whenever he is, unless you plan to have family fun time?" she held back a small laugh "No, he's free. We do not do that "family fun time" nonsense" he said rather annoyed by her statement "Thank you Reiji Sakamaki for being so understanding" she said which came out sarcastic Reiji hummed and gave the phone to Laito who was standing by his side listening into the conversation "I'm impressed Tranny-chan, you managed to convince my older strict brother to a curfew of 2:00am, bravo~" he smirked as he complimented her "What can I say, I just have a way with men" she laughed along with Laito "So when are you thinking of hanging out?" Laito asked curious as to what she had planned for them "Well it's Thursday so~ Friday or Saturday is good and I was planning just walking around town I don’t know maybe catch a movie I don’t I say let’s wing it" she laughed "hmmm I don't have anything planned, so both days either way is fine" he chuckled a little "Alright Friday it is. Just send me a text whenever you're ready, I'll rock up and you better bring money because I ain't gonna pay for your rich ass" she laughed. She was well aware that he is rich and he had his own money so she did want pay for him because she didn’t see the point in it really "Oh alright I'll bring some money. So I'll see you on our date~" he smirked waiting for her reaction "OI IT'S NOT A DATE-" before she could yell at him Laito had hung up on her as he laughed "That little shit" she muttered as her cheeks flared up but she couldn't help but smile.

(Name) and Laito have been going out to town having fun and enjoying each other's company, but poor Laito was falling more for her as the days passed by. (Name) oblivious to his feelings for her continued to treat him like any other mate of hers, Laito knew this and that's what annoyed him the most. School break was finished and it was backed to the same old routines, going to class learning boring things and having a few fights here and there. But the two still hang out with one another which caused trouble for the two, (Name) for having girls sending death threats and Laito for have men confront him about touching "their (Name)". Laito was walking with (Name) as they talked as they ate their lunches "Has anything interesting happen lately?" he asked flashing her a small smile "Nah, just your fan girls wanting to pick a fight with me but backed down when I challenged them. Honestly Laito Sakamaki you have the worst taste in women" she laughed punching his shoulder lightly "Ah yes but they are not really my type to be truthful" this sparked her interest a little "Oooo so what is your type? I always thought you like those submissive girls that would date you with tip of your fedora" she laughed a little "I'm not sure myself, normally I prefer the submissive but its gets boring when they don't put up a fight" he sighed. "I understand, sometimes you have to spice things up, HA! Am I right" she laughed holding her hand in the air for a high-five. In a flash Laito had her pinned to a wall at the back of the school where they hangout, it was their spot that no one knew where they were. "LAITO!" she yelled her back hit into the wall, knocking the air out of her "I'm sick of this... I will make you mine. You will submit to me" he growled tightening his grip "Knock it off Laito this isn't funny, so lay off would you" she growled back trying to break free from him "That is something I cannot do Tranny-chan. I'm hurt that you think I'm joking when clearly I'm being serious" he said dangerous close to her face. (Name) stared at him closely. She didn’t know what to say or do she was frozen. His emerald eyes captured her in a trance his reddish-brown hair in his face his fedora laid perfectly on his head. She felt powerless as Laito started to lean into her further, she felt her heartbeat quicken. Laito could tell it was beating fast which made him chuckle as he proceed to lean into her neck ready to bit into her but she managed to shake him of "WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU" She yelled pushing his off causing him to stumble back "Fufufuf~ don't you get it I want you, and I always get what I want" he purred pinning her again having regained his balance "LAITO! GET OFF ME NOW!" She snapped pushing him again "Not until I get what I want. And what I want is you" he said seriously and bit into her neck. (Name) gripped onto him trying to throw him off but he was too strong for her, she waited for the awaiting pain of him drinking but nothing happened, at first she thought he was just toying with her. He pulled back licking the blood that surfaced on her neck "Now you're mine" he smiled as he looked at his work done on her neck "YOU BASTARD!" She yelled angered and punched his face hard. Grabbing her hand from the pain and he was hit pretty hard his face faced the other way as he cast his eyes at the floor. She was muttering swears from the pain in her hands then she glared at him harshly her hand still I pain "Look at me and listen close because I won't repeat myself" she growled as he faced her with pain in his eyes and fear that he made her hate him "All you had to fucking do was just tell me how you felt...I would have happily gave you a chance... I'm willing to give you a second chance but as soon as I catch you playing me for your own pleasures I won't hesitate to kill you. Got it" she growled venom dripping from her words "Understood" he felt his smile rise on his face as he hugged her she hugged back awkwardly "Can I get a kiss?" He asked with a small purr in his voice "Fine but don't go telling everyone alright" she tsked and gave him a quick peck he pouted at her as she kissed on the cheek "I said a kiss and that's all you're getting" she said sitting down to eat lunch he joined her happily eating his food “Seriously man, I thought you were smooth in confessing to people you like” she laughed “But those girls I didn’t really like, you know I thought it would have been easier but you aren’t like others girls so I kinda panicked and just became forceful” he explained truthfully “Hey I never said I hated it really I was just shocked…and sorry for punching you it was just a reflex” she blushed softly “I keep that noted to warn you when I’m going to do something” he laughed with her

[soyouwannaplaywithmagick]

King of His Satellite Castle Chapter Two

“Satellite In my eyes Like a diamond in the sky How I wonder” -“Satellite” by Dave Matthews Band

“Sherlock, it’s completely reckless and totally unnecessary.”

“You’ll be putting yourself at so much risk. Please. Think about what you’re doing.”

“I know how smart you are. This isn’t the way, can’t you see that?”

“I’ve… I’ve got some… books you can read instead.”

“…Sherlock!” 

“I know you’re brilliant and superior, but I am your doctor, and you will mind me!”

“Do you think I’ve spent the better portion of my entire adult life trying to keep you breathing just to let you do something so… so utterly asinine?!”

It didn’t matter. Whatever John said to the boy, Sherlock’s face and resolve remained exactly the same. He had made up his mind, and after almost an hour of trying to change it, nothing could have been more irritating. Especially the fact that he expected John to just somehow “figure out” how to help him avoid dying, even though he was choosing to do something that, by all accounts, assured he would. It was a stupid risk, and Sherlock was undoubtedly going to put himself in the utmost danger because of it.

Finally, John said the only thing he could think of, the only thing that hadn’t already passed from his brain to his mouth without a filter.

“I mean, who’ve you even got in mind? It’s not like you’ve got anyone of your own.”

At this, Sherlock’s brow furrowed furiously, and he stood, turned away from John, and marched off into his room. Before John could even call his apology, he heard Sherlock’s bedroom door slam.

Right. Yeah. That was a bad one on me.

~*~*~*~*~*~

John went home that night and cited paperwork as the reason he needed to retreat into his study for the better part of the evening. He and Mary didn’t usually eat together anymore anyway, just like they didn’t talk much. Whenever they did, it always turned into a fight.

Pouring himself a glass of Glenfiddich, John sat down at his computer (an old, woodburning thing) and thought about everything he already knew. He didn’t need to log on in order to get the information of which he was already painfully aware. Besides, he could just imagine what he’d find if he did search.

Yahoo! Answers

Question: Hi- I have a disease that makes my immune system basically nonexistent and causes me to experience allergic reactions to almost everything. I live in a house by myself, never go outside, and only ever see my doctor. My question is this: should I have sex?

Best Answer: No idiot. U would die.

No, John was a good enough doctor to know better, but his heart was big enough (and he’d known Sherlock long enough) to imagine that there might be a possibility for the boy to get what he wanted. You know, if he went against all his medical knowledge and allowed for his patient to do something that would almost absolutely get him killed.

John was reminded in that moment that Mycroft, Sherlock’s brother, essentially was the British government, or that was how Sherlock put it anyway. And even though they seemed to hate each other, Mycroft would most assuredly strip John of his license to practice medicine before, oh, say, locking him up in a Serbian prison if his baby bro were to die on the good doctor’s watch.

He stared at the black monitor on his computer and sighed. He took another sip and mulled it over some more.

This is idiotic. You know exactly what to do. Why are you mulling anything?

He answered his own question when he thought of Sherlock’s face after he’d said those words.

“It’s not like you’ve got anyone of your own.”

He’d looked so hurt, like someone had tugged out then crumpled his heart. John closed his eyes. Stupid. He was the stupid one.

Though he kept drinking, he put on his best research face and fired up the old machine in front of him. Okay. Let’s think.

~*~*~*~*~*~

The next day, John stopped by Sherlock’s place again after work. He got the same glares from the other doctors and nurses he always did, but instead of going anywhere else first, he just went straight to the egg-shaped house. As a result, he got there a little earlier than he usually did, and he wondered if everything would be ready for him.

To his surprise, the extra set of scrubs, slippers, and everything else was already waiting, and he realized Sherlock was too smart for his own good.

Well, he doesn’t know what I’ve been thinking. I could have come back here to try to talk him out of it again.

He stripped quickly and stepped into the shower. As he washed his hair under the scalding water, he thought about his plan again. The truth was it was still extremely risky. And stupid. And absolutely unnecessary. And Sherlock could still, in fact, die. But he couldn’t imagine having to face him after he’d wounded him so deeply with nothing but a cursory apology and the same, tired words.

John hopped out of the shower and had barely dressed again when he heard Sherlock’s voice.

“Good afternoon, Dr. Watson.”

John nodded because he knew Sherlock could see him even if he couldn’t see Sherlock. “‘Lo, Sherlock.”

“You’re early.”

“I am. Can I come up and take your vitals?”

There was a pause, and then he heard Sherlock’s voice come in flatly over the intercom. “I took them already.”

“I’d like to take them again if I may. And I’d like to talk to you.”

There was another pause, a longer one, before John heard the door above him hiss open. He climbed the stairs in his slippered feet before stepping into the living room. He didn’t see Sherlock anywhere, which was typical. John searched.

When he finally found him, the boy was sitting on his bed, clearly disinterested in John’s visit. He had one of his iPhones in his hand and seemed to be texting someone in Japanese.

“Sherlock. Would you mind putting the phone down? I want to talk.”

“I thought you wanted to take my vitals.”

“And talk.”

Sherlock didn’t look up from the phone. John sighed and came to sit beside him. He let a few moments go by before he finally said, “I’ll help.”

Sherlock glanced at him, then back at the phone. “You’ll help…”

“I’ll… I want… you to be happy.” John sniffed and looked away. “I don’t want you to miss out on one of the fundamental aspects of life.”

This time, Sherlock’s eyes moved to John and stayed on him.

“Really?”

“Yes. But it’s… it’s so completely dangerous, and if you wanted my opinion––”

“Don’t,” Sherlock said in a clipped, higher-pitched voice, the way he sometimes said “Bored.”

“––Yeah, well… Fine, but I’m giving it anyway because in my opinion as your doctor… and your friend… I think it’s really dangerous. I would recommend against it, whole-heartedly. But also as your doctor and your friend… I want to see you happy. I want…”

Here, John looked down at his slippers and flexed his hands which were sitting clasped together on his lap.

“I want to help you make some kind of human connection because, frankly, this is the first time you’ve expressed any interest in it.”

When John looked up at him, Sherlock just rolled his eyes and glanced back at his phone, although he wasn’t texting anymore.

“I already told you I shied away from anything in this vein because I felt it would allow me to better focus my mind on other things.”

John nodded slowly. “But… now you’ve changed it.”

“My mind, yes.”

John waited a moment, then asked. “So does that mean you never thought about sex until now?”

“I thought about it from time to time, but I didn’t let it consume my thoughts, and I always put it out of my head whenever it started to distract me.”

“You put it out of your head?”

“Yes.”

John pursed his lips. “Does this mean you’ve never masturbated?”

“Yes.”

“Yes, it does, or yes, you’ve never­­––?”

“Yes, I’ve never.”

John took in a deep breath and let it out in a long, slow sigh. “Okay.” He turned to look at Sherlock who still wasn’t looking back at him. “I’m starting to think this isn’t about human connection anymore.”

Sherlock gave a small, low chuckle. “Hm. Why did you ever think it in the first place?”

John laughed. “I dunno. But I still want to help you. It’s just that you have to do it my way. Understand?”

For the first time in the conversation, Sherlock finally turned to look at John. His eyes always seemed to pierce straight through, to find the core of whatever John was really saying or what he really meant to say. John held his gaze fast and didn’t back down, trying to show him he was serious.

Finally, Sherlock nodded. “Okay.”

“Okay.”

John couldn’t help but to smile a little in the moment. It was the first time Sherlock hadn’t asked questions or hadn’t tried to cast doubt on John’s authority.

Well, maybe not the first time.

John had suddenly thought of the time he’d reprimanded Sherlock after he’d left the egg-shaped house to look at that dead body. After he’d finished his stern lecture, Sherlock’s young face had changed, the haughtiness that usually characterized it vaporizing into guilt and perhaps a little bit of fear.

“You could have died,” John had said to him, which had been the catalyst for the change in Sherlock’s expression. He hadn’t complained then. Just nodded solemnly, a ten-year-old boy with too much weight to carry on his shoulders. Immediately, the young doctor had relented and knelt down to hold him.

“I’m sorry, Sherlock. I just want to keep you safe.”

In that moment, remembering the young Sherlock and the many hours John had dedicated to keeping the boy safe, he softened and wanted to wrap his arms around him again.

I suppose he’s told old for things like that now, thought John. He settled on giving Sherlock a cheerful smile to let him know they were fine.

“All right,” he said, still smiling. “Give me your arm. Let’s check those vitals, and then, I’ll tell you what I’ve been thinking we could do.”

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[russellthornton]

How to Subtly Flirt with a Girl: The Art of Subtle Seduction

Men devour pornography while women devour erotica book-fiction. And there’s a reason why. Here’s how to subtly flirt with a girl and rouse her curiosity.

Why should you know how to subtly flirt with a girl?

There’s a reason 50 Shades of Grey was the fastest selling book of all time. Reading allows for much more personal interpretation than say a movie or image. Ladies like to imagine and build up an emotional feeling long before they’re ready to become intimate – so you want to flirt with her underneath the surface. Tease her by making her figure things out and making her work a little.

First, get your game on if you want to  know how to subtly flirt with a girl!

Before we jump in any further, this is the key! Too many guys think of flirting as this passive, gentle stroking game. It can have those moments when it is indeed toned with softness, but overall, the girl’s looking to engage in verbal battle with you to test what you’re made of. For her, this is like mental masturbation.

You want to be prepared for a dramatic wrestling match. Be ready to have to come back with a comeback line. Don’t rely on one-liners, but think of flirting as a dance of wit and emotional health. A guy who’s on game – who can have fun and who is ready to tussle – is alpha. [Read: How to flirt with girls – 15 secrets to make any girl fall for you]

Here’s how to subtly flirt with a girl

I’ve included a dynamite list here, so be prepared for some gold. Keep your eyes on these areas:

#1 It’s all in the eyes. Needless to say, if you want to know how to subtly flirt with a girl, you’ll have to have fun by doing this:

a. Have a smile in your eyes as you hit her back with cheeky one-two liners

b. Hold eye contact for longer than usual and see how she reacts

c. If her eyes are light enough, watch for dilated pupils – a sign that she’s responding well. If her pupils are small, ease off the flirting – as she’s probably not into it. [Read: 15 lusty signs of sexual attraction you can’t miss]

#2 It’s all in subtle bodily expressions. Sticking with the ‘having fun’ theme – play around with gentle facial expressions that you might think would be too subtle to be noticed:

a. Furrow your brow questioningly rather than asking, ‘are you serious?’

b. Wink knowingly after you’ve said something profound

c. Roll your eyes

d. Use self-confident gestures when narrating a story [Read: 20 types of physical touches and what each touch means]

#3 It’s all in the suggestiveness of it. Here’s a universal law you can trust: don’t talk about your past sexual experiences, even when she asks. Generally, guys communicate in a more direct sort of way.

But for women, it’s all about inference and imagination. She wants to figure you out for herself, without you telling her – from your behaviors, things you talk about, how worldly you seem.

Be a bit mysterious – she doesn’t want you to tell her every little thing about you. Show her who you are subliminally. Become intriguing. Some tips:

a. Drop in things during conversation that reveal your knowledge of types of things girls like

b. Make statements about what kind of girl you think she is

c. If she asks how many girls you’ve slept with, say ‘I’m hoping you’ll be my first’ or something equally playful or ridiculous

d. Tell her what you love in a woman [Read: How girls flirt – 15 signs she’s being way more than just nice]

#4 Compliment her. If you want to know how to flirt with a girl, you have to compliment her. For the longest time, I thought it was too predictable to tell a girl what I liked about her. But the easiest way to let her know she’s on your radar is to tell what you find lovely about her. Make this sincere and do it without planning ahead.

When you have the thought just say it, ‘you look really lovely today.’ Don’t wait for a reaction; just continue doing what you were doing or saying. Every girl knows that if a guy is into her, he’ll find it hard to not let slip something about her that he finds mesmerizing. [Read: How to charm a girl and flatter her into liking you]

#5 It’s all in the intent. Have you ever found yourself talking to a girl, feeling as if you had to hold back the animal inside you desperately trying to come out? Why bother? No one needs to know what you’re thinking, but that storm inside you will help to communicate your desire subtly.

When you talk to her, this will make you register in her mind subconsciously as sexually significant. Here are a few things you could do when making eye contact:

a. Let go to those primal thoughts you have for her

b. Imagine being intimate with her

c. Imagine kissing her

d. Imagine leading her across the threshold.

You don’t have to say what you’re thinking as it may be inappropriate depending on context, but being in the sexual mindset carries electrical charge. [Read: How to make a girl want you and desire you sexually]

#6 Poke her. Some physical contact tips:

a. Playfully take her wrist, studying her bracelet as an excuse

b. Poke her briefly on both sides of her waist as you pass her *not hard, but enough that it might feel surprising*. If she reacts weirdly say, ‘oh sorry, thought you might be ticklish’

c. Place your arm on hers as you make a point *don’t look at her arm as you do it, that’s just awkward*

Playful physical contact is a great tip for understanding how to subtly flirt with a girl and close the canyon of physical touch between you two. Once you’re both comfortable with light physical play, this possibly opens the door for more extended and intimate touching. [Read: How to subtly flirt by touch without making it obvious at all]

#7 Tease her. Teasing is a great tip for figuring out how to subtly flirt with a girl. As a teenager a girl had asked me, ‘do you fancy me or something?’ when I kept teasing her during lessons. I hadn’t even realized I was doing it at the time, but she’d been right. There are many sophisticated ways of going about teasing, however – be inventive. A few random ones:

a. Make an ambivalent statement about her that’s hard to interpret but which might be a half-compliment

b. Look away distractedly after saying something provocative

c. Playfully say one thing and do another

d. Pretend she’s goofy

e. Misinterpret what she says on purpose. A typical response to this type of teasing might be something like, ‘stop it, that’s not what I meant.’ [Read: How to tease a girl, and get her to text you back often]

#8 Be unpredictable. Long-term, you want to stay interesting. Flirting that is one-dimensional gets boring quickly – it’s too predictable and quickly seems childish. Let’s sophisticate your flirt game. Here are the dimensions:

a. Playful and positive

b. Playful and negative

c. Serious and positive

d. Serious and negative

e. One of the 4 above related to her

f. One of the 4 above related to you

Whenever you’re too much on one side of the spectrum, bring it to the opposite side. This is a way to never be predictable – even you won’t know what you’re going to say next, only the emotion behind it. [Read: 10 ways to build sexual tension the flirty way]

This way you can have an interaction that’s infinitely engaging and never gets boring. You’ll also never be too focused on either yourself or on her. She’ll want to see the conclusion and will even seduce you in order to find out how it ends. Don’t underestimate the power of this one.

#9 Use x in a text.

HER text: Hey what you up to? 🙂

YOUR text: Eating a bangin tuna sandwich x

The lowercase ‘x’… It’s another phenomenon that cannot and should not ever be underestimated. Think of an x as empathy. From her end, it says that there is something special about your communication with her. You don’t just send anyone an x, even your favorite bro.

Technically it is a shortage for ‘kisses,’ but it can be used in many ways – it’s very cool when you use it casually, after a seemingly ordinary, everyday message. However, it will have her thinking about you and if she reciprocates, that’s a good sign – it generally means she’s encouraging your intimacy. [Read: How to text a girl you like and make her want you]

#10 Show an interest. This one might sound like an obvious tip for how to flirt with a girl, and it should be. James Bond is a cool movie franchise, but the reality is that we live in a world of too much information and if you constantly act as if you’re disinterested in a girl, she’ll simply take your disinterest at face value. A few ways to show interest:

a. Ask her things that you want to learn about her

b. Ask her what she’s interested in

c. Remember little things about her and point them out

d. Make a note of important things like birthdays or personal victories and do something that you think she’d like, to acknowledge them. [Read: How to make a girl like you without even asking her out]

#11 Make statements. How are you doing? How are you today? Where did you get that handbag? What kind of music do you like?

Too many questions can be annoying. No one wants to be interviewed for 5 hours. Balls up and say what you think. Try to work out who you think she is. No girl wants a people pleaser. Every girl wants her partner to look into her eyes and see into her soul like a vampire in the Twilight movie.

Say:

a. ‘I think you’re bit of a badass chick,’ as you point out her leather Zara biker jacket

b. ‘Okay, you’re definitely into dogs,’ as you pass a dog walker and she can’t stop staring

c. ‘Hmm, I think you’re a Trap music kind of girl but you used to be into pop. You probably have a poster of Justin Bieber next to Future on your bedroom wall.’

Be controversial or sarcastic or witty. Let your personality shine through like you would to a friend, just with more sexual intent. If she completely hates your personality or comedy, then it really wasn’t meant to be: #Incompatible.

Remember, never just focus on her the whole time, as it will begin to seem like an interrogation – change your statements to things about you, your opinions and your surroundings.

[Read: How to talk to girls and leave them swooning… every single time!]

The art of knowing how to subtly flirt with a girl is like a tussling match, so think on your feet and be on game. If you’re expressive, observant, and take an interest in her, you’re already half the way there. Also let her see who you are through your behaviors and you’ll have her fascinated.

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